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KEY SCRIPTURE: John 10:14 “I am the good shepherd, and know my sheep, and am known of mine”.

Parents are shepherds of their children. Jesus said He knows his sheep. Many parents get so busy with other things without knowing what is going on in the life of their teenage children.

Many parents live to be very shocked, when informed about certain behaviours of their children.

The bible reveals the reaction of Absalom to his brother Amnon who had raped his sister Tamar in 2nd Samuel 13:22 “And Absalom spoke unto his brother Amnon neither good nor bad for Absalom hated Amnon, because he had forced his sister”. Absalom was so hurt that he did not speak to his brother yet King David their father did nothing about it. Why? He might not have known. He was not involved in the life of his sons. Absalom planned to kill his brother for a whole two years and David had no slightest insight into it. When brothers are not talking to each other, it should not easily escape a father who relates with his children.

Certain parents only live to realize that their “innocent” daughter is pregnant. What has been going on in her life, who are her friends? Do you take time to search her bag, books, phones and even chart with her to know her activities?. Some parents are shocked to know that their son is on drugs. In some cases they get to know when the child maybe involved in an offence that draws them to the police station. How could all these be going on and they had no knowledge?

 Dear father the responsibility to raise a godly son or daughter rest mainly with you. Our key scripture says “I know my sheep”. Do you know your children?

Absalom had become a rebel and David didn’t know. What are the signs in a rebellious son? 2nd Samuel 13:21 says “But when David heard of all these he was very wroth”.  He was angry with Amnon but what did he do more.

Father, get proactive about events concerning your children. Get into their bags, books, dresses, mobile phones etc.

 CAUTION: NEVER ASSUME EVERYTHING IS RIGHT WITH ANY OF THEM. GET TO KNOW WHAT HAPPENS WITH THEM.

  CONFESSION

It is my duty as a parent to raise godly children, I must know all that goes on in their lives through communicating with them, going through everything about them. I would never lose my children to any evil influence.

FURTHER STUDIES.

Proverbs 4:3-4  ” For I was my father’s son, tender and only beloved in the sight of my mother. He taught me also, and said unto me, Let thine heart retain my words: keep my commandments, and live”.

John 10:3 to him the porter openeth; and the sheep hear his voice: and he calleth his own sheep by name, and leadeth them out”.

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KEY SCRIPTURE: Proverbs 22:6 “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it”.

Our key scripture tells parents to train their children in the right paths. One way to do this is by demonstrating it to the child or the growing up individual. Luke introduces the book of the Acts of the apostles as.”……..of all that Jesus began both to do and to teach.”(Acts 1:1)The apostles were not just taught the doctrine and principles of God but they saw what was taught demonstrated before them by the Lord Jesus.

There are a number of children who would never trust their parents, because they have taught them to tell lies. It is very serious when answering a phone call you claim you are at point A whiles you are indeed at point B. Meanwhile all these is said and done in the presence of your daughter or son. If you tell your son to go answer the man at the gate, seeking for you that you are not at home, then you are making a liar out of your son and this boy would never truly trust you.

Demonstrate a life of true love to all and your family in particular. Practice a life of prayer. Don’t only talk about trusting God, show it in all your life situations.

A Japanese proverbs says “your actions are so loud that I can’t hear you when you speak” Dear parent there is no teaching that is clearer and stronger than a genuine or good example. Every father is a leader of the family and every good leader always leads by example, so father decide to submit your life to God’s word  first to do it and then to teach it. Ezra 7:10 “For Ezra had prepared his heart to seek the law of the LORD, and to do it, and to teach in Israel statutes and judgments”. The Lord said He made man and wife one flesh that they may raise Godly seeds (Malachi 2:15).Being an example in every good thing is a sure way to having godly seed.

CONFESSION

There is no clearer teaching than a good example, I would always do whatever I wish to see my children do.

FURTHER STUDIES

Malachi 2:15 “And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth”.

1 Timothy 4:12  “Let no man despise thy youth; but be thou an example of the believers, in word, in conversation, in charity, in spirit, in faith, in purity”.

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KEY SCRIPTURE: Mark 3:25 “And if a house be divided against itself, that house cannot stand”.

Our Lord Jesus taught us rightly that a house divided against itself cannot stand. One of the greatest hindrance to having children raised in a godly way is a divided house.

When husband and wife are divided the children are the worse sufferers. It is rather worse when the strife between husband and wife is intense and bitter

The absence of love between father and mother affects the emotions of the children so much. Such children cannot accept any virtue of love taught in church. Such parents allow their anger to rule over their emotions such that they can mistreat each other right in the presence of the children. The bible says fathers provoke not your children to wrath (Ephesians 6:4). These children are provoked to anger. In some cases some of them would have fought their father if they could. Such a child has become a rebellion for life, if the Lord does not intervene.

Some of the mothers in an attempt to win the sympathy of the children gather her children around her and rehearse all the wrong things that their father has done. These children are put in a very confused state. As their biological father still occupies some aspect of their heart. They are being forced to hate their father. The end result is a rebellion against both. Father and mother

Such children would one day vent their anger on their. Mother who sowed such evil seeds in them.

Children in such a state become more vile because they go to the father and get what they want from him, and then go to their mother as well to manipulate her too. What sort of children are you both raising? You are raising armed robbers and prostitutes for the future, how? They would never trust either father or mother and would rather confide in evil people since they are prone to evil. A divided house cannot stand, but would surely be destroyed.

A divided house is under the principle of divide and rule. Satan has entered the home, turned man and woman against each. Other and then destroy the whole house. Please your enemy can’t be your wife and neither your husband. Start attacking the devil, in prayer. Forgive your spouse, join hands in prayer, call all the children together and confess your faults to each other. Tell the children you are sorry for all the negative things you said about each other to them.

This is only the beginning of the healing process. You must prove your repentance by maintaining the attitude of love. The children seeing true repentance would also turn from their wrong ways and get along very well with father and mother.

 CONFESSION

I will not allow my house to be divided in Jesus name.My children would not be separated from any of us.My home would always remain a united home.

FURTHER STUDIES

Matthew 12:25

And Jesus knew their thoughts, and said unto them, Every kingdom divided against itself is brought to desolation; and every city or house divided against itself shall not stand:

James 5:20

Let him know, that he which converteth the sinner from the error of his way shall save a soul from death, and shall hide a multitude of sins.

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KEY SCRIPTURE: Ephesians 6:1-2 “Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; (which is the first commandment with promise ;)”

Our key scripture speaks to all children to obey their parents in the Lord. In the Lord means, so long as what they ask you to do, honours God.

The scripture added that every child should honour their father and mother, this is the first of the commandments with promise. The promise is that, it may be well with you and also live long in the land.

Our parents are authorities God has set over us. Romans 13:1 says “Let every soul be subjected unto the powers. For there is no power but of God…” To live under authority is to be subjected to God. It is to the good of anyone to be subjected to the authorities God has set over him. When we refuse to be obedient to our parents, it is called rebellion. The word of God says rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft (1st Samuel 15:23). Rebellion opposes the very thrown of God. It always attracts a curse. The curse for disobeying our parents is early death and a miserable life. Children this is very serious. Now learn this secret, to receive an impartation of long life, please honour the aged. The Bible says honour your father and mother, so that it may go well with you and that you may have a long life.

The command is to obey them in the Lord. It is rather strange that a parent would ask you to do something against God. This happens in certain cultures where the knowledge of God is not acknowledged. In certain places it becomes an offence to worship God. Children of such parents may be restricted from worshiping the Lord. Some may not be allowed to go to church. On all these things the child would have to keep faith with God. He must not do what the parents may be demanding. Some parents may demand that their daughters go for boy friends who would cater for them.

All these things are sins before God and Christian children must do what the word of God says instead.  We must obey our parents but in the Lord.

CONFESSION

As a child, I am blessed when I remain obedient to my parents in the Lord. I would always honour them and please then according to the word of God.

FURTHER STUDIES.

James 4:6 “But he giveth more grace. Wherefore he saith, God resisteth the proud, but giveth grace unto the humble”

Colossians 3:20 “Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord”.

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KEY SCRIPTURE:  Proverbs 22:15 “Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him”.

Our key scripture says foolishness is bound in the heart of a child. . I explained in our previous study that foolishness is the inability to act rightly. This is so because the child is empty of proper knowledge and lacks understanding.

We are living in a world where every kind of knowledge is easily accessible. Most of the information is very dangerous to the child’s moral development. The television is readily available and seriously feeds the child with so much information. Friends of our children who might have been wrongly influenced also give what they know to our children at school or even those in our vicinity. The child who is prone to error is destroyed if we allow the world or society to feed and inform him or her.

Every parent must “fight” for the moral rightness of his or her child. The Bible says when Moses mother saw he was a handsome (goodly) child she hid him for three months (Exodus 2:2). Remember Pharaoh had made a decree that every male child born to the Jews must be killed (Exodus 1:22). The god of this world is seeking to “kill” your child with error before he or she grows to know the truth.

Correct your child by keeping him or her from watching certain things. Start reading the scriptures to him or her. Tell him or her of the principles of the scriptures. Have time with the child. When she come for school take some time to talk with him or her. Let him or her know certain actions songs and certain things she must not do. Tell your child to rehearse some of the things which went on in the day to you. If you are able to process your children this way, you would know most of the wrong things that the child is exposed to.

The responsibilities of securing the proper moral, spiritual and physical development of your child rests with you. It is not the duty of his or her teacher. You must be close to the child to correct him or her from perpetuating foolishness. Take foolishness away with the truth.

 CONFESSION

The world is terribly forcing its way into the heart of every child. I would draw foolishness from my children’s heart with the truth.

FURTHER STUDIES.

Hebrews 12:16 lest there be any fornicator, or profane person, as Esau, who for one morsel of meat sold his birthright.

Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.

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KEY SCRIPTURE: Proverbs 22:15 “Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him”.

God knows the nature of all humans too well. He says foolishness is bound in the heart of a child: Foolishness is opposite to wisdom. It means the inability to act rightly. The child is like an empty tank. He has no knowledge of what is good or evil. Neither does he or she have understanding. All these coupled with the fact that all men are born in sin. Psalm 51:5 “Behold, I was sharpen in iniquity and in sin did my mother conceive me”. Every child has foolishness bound up in his heart *

The Lord says the rod of correction shall drive it out of him or her. Parents, never allow your child to have his or her way. Some parents are over protective and over pampering. They are scared to see their children cry. They would give every demand the child makes. This is not healthy for the child. Saying no, you can’t have this, is one of the means of correcting the child. There is also the need to apply the rod to drive out that foolishness from the child when it is needed.

I wish to make some points clear at this moment. Punishing a child is different from disciplining the child. Punishment proceeds from anger to satisfy your lust. It is when you feel satisfied because you have inflicted a level of pain to the child. Punishment deforms the child. It traumatises the child and leaves the child with a sense of anger and revenge. An introvert child will cave in and would become more timid. This have serious psychological consequences.

 Discipline proceeds from love. You apply the rod not to satisfy your anger but a clear focus on the reformation and transformation of the child. In discipline the parent tries to bring home to the child the offence committed, its future effect and the proper thing to be done. Therefore alongside discipline is a communication of whatever the parent seeks to get from the child.

Please note, it is a ROD OF CORRECTION, not an INSTRUMENT TO MAIM OR TO DESTROY.

 CONFESSION

Every child has foolishness in him according to the scriptures. I would therefore be firm with my children to straighten them up, yet I will do this out of love in order to get the best out of them.

FURTHER STUDIES.

Genesis 18:19  For I know him, that he will command his children and his household after him, and they shall keep the way of the LORD, to do justice and judgment; that the LORD may bring upon Abraham that which he hath spoken of him.

Hebrews 12:5 ” And ye have forgotten the exhortation which speaketh unto you as unto children, My son, despise not thou the chastening of the Lord, nor faint when thou art rebuked of him”:

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KEY SCRIPTURE: 2 Samuel 12:10 “Now therefore the sword shall never depart from thine house; because thou hast despised me, and hast taken the wife of Uriah the Hittite to be thy wife”.

Life is spiritual and parents, especially fathers must allow the word of God to rule them. When they fail to let the word rule but act against the word of God their punishment can become a curse even on their children. This can give devils unhindered asses to assume the control of these children.

In 2 Samuel 12 the prophet Nathan came to King David and proverbially exposed his sin and wickedness before God. The following judgement or curse came upon him with his sons as well. 2nd Samuel 12:11 “Thus saith the Lord, Behold, I will raise up evil against thee, out of thine own house and I will take thy wives before thine eyes and give them unto thy neighbour and he shall lie with the his wives in the sight of the sun”.

The Bible continued in chapter 13 by saying, and it came to pass after this. After David’s meeting with Nathan and the death of the baby, between him and Uriah’s wife. His son. Amnon had a crazy lust for his own sister Tamar. He eventually raped her and that started the process of anarchy in David’s home. Absalom who was Tamar’s direct brother was badly offended and went ahead and killed his brother Amnon. He rose against his father and even slept with his father’s concubines. (2nd Samuel 16:21-23).

What made the sons of David become so vile, committing incest and murdering one another? A supernatural power had taken over them and used them to bring pain to the heart of their father David. This evil hand was let in by their father.

Parents, your actions have so much effect and impact on your children. Many times the spirit that would rule and control the children depends on how the father or parents honoured God and his word. Proverbs 20:7 “The just man walketh in his integrity, His children are blessed after Him”.

Many times the power that controls or influences the children depends on how the parents honoured God.

CONFESSION

My children are blessed after my blessings I will continually walk in honour of God and His word, so I would constantly attract God’s favour on myself and my children after me.

FURTHER STUDIES.

Psalms 112:1-2 ” Praise ye the LORD. Blessed is the man that feareth the LORD, that delighteth greatly in his commandments. His seed shall be mighty upon earth: the generation of the upright shall be blessed”.

Exodus 34:7  “Keeping mercy for thousands, forgiving iniquity and transgression and sin, and that will by no means clear the guilty; visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children, and upon the children’s children, unto the third and to the fourth generation”.

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