KEY SCRIPTURE: 1 Peter 3:8-9 ” Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous:
Not rendering evil for evil, or railing for railing: but contrariwise blessing; knowing that ye are thereunto called, that ye should inherit a blessing”.
The above scripture was meant for the wider church setting, yet it is very applicable to the home of couples.
The verse 9 says we must not render evil for evil. Dear couple as long as you live with another person there would be offences, Matthew 18:7. You must make room for offences. This does not mean you keep offending each other. There are some people who find it very difficult to say, “I am sorry”. They would give all kinds of excuses to justify their errors. It is pride that makes people defend their own errors. Marriage is never an individualistic venture,. The day you accept to get married you said you were sacrificing your independence in handling issues to a cooperate approach to issues of life. Your actions must always anticipate the bigger interest of the two than your singular approach.
Divorce is mainly a result of people who enter marriage with an independent mind. Such people would not normally say “I am sorry neither will they accept apologies of offended couples. Forgiveness is a very necessary virtue in the home. The scripture says in Ephesians 4:32 “And be ye kind one to another, even as God for Christ sake hath forgiven you.” God has forgiven us on the account of the sacrifice of our Lord Jesus. He has suffered for us. Why would you not forgive your spouse?
The world have accepted divorce as an answer to offences that go on in marriages. All these are Satan’s prescription to break the marital home. Listen to what the Lord says in Malachi 2:16a “For the Lord, the God of Israel saith that he hateth putting away…..” God says He hates divorce. It is very strange for some couples mentioning offences upon offences which they claim they have forgiven. They rehearse a number of offences each time a new one is committed. . Anyone who does this never forgave in the first place. A matter forgiven should not be rehearsed.
I love my spouse and therefore do not seek my advantage. I will always forgive errors and offences and will lay that matter to rest forever. I seek the ultimate good of both of us and indeed we will always triumph.
Malachi 2:16 “For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit that ye deal not treacherously”.
1 Peter 3:10-11. For he that will love life, and see good days, let him refrain his tongue from evil, and his lips that they speak no guile: Let him eschew evil, and do good; let him seek peace, and ensue it.