KEY SCRIPTURE: Ephesians 5:21. “Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God”.

God after creating all things including the first man declared it is not good for the man to be alone, I will make him a help meet for him. Although God initiated the marriage, many people will either make it to heaven because of marriage, and many more will also make it to hell because of their marriage. Our key scripture admonishes us to submit to one another in the fear of God. This is something very difficult for many to do. I listened to the testimony of a pastor who died and was raised to life again at a church service. He testified that he went to hell. His reason for missing heaven and going to hell was because he would not forgive his wife over an issue, but died during his state of unforgiveness.

I have seen certain Christian couples who appear very nice to each other, when they are in the midst of others. yet at home the wife becomes a punching bag, and the wife also retaliates with very massive insults. The home has become a place of high-level emotional outbursts. This is so because God’s instruction to submit to each other in the home has been flouted so much. The scripture said, they were naked and not ashamed yet, this kind of being naked and not being ashamed has rather been used negatively. Most couples have no respect for each other. Some tell lies to each other with ease. They pretend to be the best of couples when in the midst of others, yet the worst of enemies when alone. God brought the two together to break that loneliness, yet their company at home creates more loneliness than when they are apart. Dear reader, if this is your experience then the Spirit of God must be allowed to be Lord over the home.

Matters get worse when partners become unfaithful to each other. Normally the men are the worst culprits. He starts having an affair with another woman somewhere. The Christian home should be a place of love, respect, trust, and godly examples to influence the children in a positive way. The Lord states one of his reasons for a GODLY home in the following verse. Malachi 2:15a, “And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed”. He says he has joined the two together to become one flesh (not three to become one), so he could have godly children. Infidelity in the home defeats God’s plans for the home, that is to raise godly seeds. The above scenarios is a very wrong picture of God’s idea of the home. The Christian must be Christian or like Christ everywhere. The home is the first point of call for both mother and father to reveal Christ. If people do not change from such actions, a lot of Christian couples would end up in hell.


Father, I pray for all Christian couples to fear you above all things, I pray that your word will take first place in their life. May the Christlike life be seen in them.


Philippians 4:5. ‘Let your moderation be known unto all men. The Lord is at hand’

Matt 12:3 6. ‘But I say unto you, that every idle word that men shall speak, they shall give account thereof in the day of judgment’.

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