KEY SCRIPTURE :1 Corinthians 13:4 KJV” Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up”,

DON’T KILL your spouse, why such a title? Today is St Valentine’s day, and the whole world is talking about love. One place or institution where love is supposed to be the atmosphere for its survival is the family. Unfortunately, real love is absent in most marriages and couples are killing and hurting each other.

I wish to share a story to explain my point. A brother once called me and gave me a number of a lady. He told me this lady wants to commit suicide and that, he wants me to counsel her. I asked why would she commit suicide? He answered that, he lived with her husband, but kept raining curses upon curses on him. She could say, you would die in a car accident. Indeed, the man was involved in a car accident and died. This incident haunted her so much that she wanted to end her life.

Many couples have a very wrong understanding of love. Love is not selfish but selfless. Love seeks the perfect good of the second party. Love is very concerned and sensitive to the peace and comfort of the second party. A number of couples are used to very harsh, vulgar words coming either from both parties or one member. If you live like this, you would soon kill the one at the receiving end. If both parties live this way, you would destroy the weaker one or each other. (THIS LIFESTYLE IS STRANGE TO CHILDREN OF GOD) Meet doctors in consulting rooms and most of their patients with very high pressures, proceed from happenings in their homes.

Marriage was designed by our Father God to be a place of support and complements, not a place of getting even at each other. He said I will make a helper meet for him (Gen.2:18) Wife, you are a helper to your husband, and the husband, you are also a helper to your wife. Wife don’t neglect this role to become over burdening. Husband don’t neglect your role to become overburdening. Give long life to each other by complementing each other’s needs. Kill your ego rather, and not your spouse.


I truly love my spouse. I am not selfish but selfless. No harsh unrestrained words proceed from me. I am very considerate and kill my ego. I have a blessed home.


1 Corinth 13:4-7 KJV Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.

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