KEY SCRIPTURE: Prov 16:32 NET” Better to be slow to anger than to be a mighty warrior, and one who controls his temper is better than one who captures a city”.
The Bible makes it clear that anger may come yet one can always control his anger and not the anger controlling him. Before we look at some of the ways to control anger let us consider what anger can do to you if not controlled. There are serious health challenges if anger is not controlled. These include:
2.Digestive problems like abdominal pains
3.Insomnia (inability to sleep)
6.High blood pressure
7.Skin problems, such as eczema
In addition to these are serious relational hurts and in some cases destruction of properties.
To control anger, please reflect diligently over the negative effects of anger, and let that raise in you a resistance against it. Convince yourself that, if anger generates all these negative conditions, then you would not allow anger to control you. This is the scriptural advice: James 1:19 NET ” Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters! Let every person be quick to listen, slow to speak, slow to anger”.
1. Stop considering yourself as too important. Turn every reproach to the Lord.
2. You may keep quiet in the moment of provocation and walk away from the scene. Proverbs 19:11
” Good sense makes a man restrain his anger, and it is his glory to overlook a transgression or an offense”.
3. Decide to cast those words or scene from your mind by telling yourself, I will not allow myself to be controlled by this condition. The feeling of anger may keep coming back, but keep repeating those words, that you would not allow yourself to be controlled by the condition.
4. Forgive your offender by voicing it out, I have forgiven him or her. Do not say this to the offender, but say it to yourself. He may provoke you further if you say it to him or her.
I have control over my temper. I am aware of the greatly negative effect of anger and would not allow it to frustrate my life.
Proverbs 22:24- “Make no friendships with a man given to anger, and with a wrathful man do not associate”,
Proverbs 29:11 -“A [self-confident] fool utters all his anger, but a wise man holds it back and stills it”.