KEY SCRIPTURE: Ephesians 5:26-27 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.

Our key scripture says the Lord sanctifies and cleanses the church with the word of God which washes the church. He does this to present the church to Himself, a glorious church not having spot, or wrinkle.

To all couples, what sort of words do you give each other? Please understand that women are amazing people. They multiply whatever you give them. Give a woman a seed (sperm) and she would give you a baby. Give her some money and you will have food for the whole family. Give her small trouble and she would multiply it and give you big trouble. If you give harsh words to your wife be sure that your happiness in the home would be seriously eroded.

Husbands share the word of God with your wives. The Bible says she is the weaker vessel. The greatest need of every woman is security, you complicate her emotions when you use harsh words on her. It is love that soothe her sense of insecurity. When the wife also say words that hurt they generate wrong responses from the man. Give what you expect your spouse to give back to you. The following are the kind of words that you have to give to your partner.

  1. Words of appreciation: that is showing appreciation for your partner doing certain duties.
  2. Words of encouragement. Words that strengthens your partner to keep doing something that he/she is getting discouraged about.
  3. Kind words: when you tell your spouse words like you are special to me. I love you. After my salvation, you in my life is the second best thing that happened to me. These are kind words. I realised such words are lost in most marriages. Please do mean them when you say them.
  4. Humble words: when you add please to whatever request you seek to make from your spouse.

All such words go a long way to stir in your spouse a sense of respect and love that makes him / her come out with his/her best.

The bible says the Lord sanctifies and cleanses the church with the washing of water which is the word and prepares the church for Himself. All the right words prepare your spouse for yourself.

If you have not been relating this way, repent and change your ways for a blissful family life.


Words are very powerful either to build up or to destroy. I will always say words of scripture to bless and lift my spouse to be what she or he should be.


Colossians 4:6 “Let your speech be always with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man”.

James 1:19-20  ” Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath:  For the wrath of man worketh not the righteousness of God”.

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