KEY SCRIPTURE: Genesis 2:18 “And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him”.

Marriage is a blessing and not a curse. God Himself said “it is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him”. God set up marriage to meet certain needs in the lives of both man and woman. These needs include:

  1. Complementing the man and the woman’s need. (Gen 2:18)
  2. Companionship. (Gen 2:18)
  3. Assisting each partner to fulfill his or her assignment in life (Gen 2:18).
  4. Procreation. (Malachi 2:15)
  5. Sexual needs. (1st Corinth 7:2)

A man I heard trying to describe his concept of marriage said that, marriage is a cage in which if you happen to enter, you cannot free yourself. This view is held by quite a number of people, but is very wrong and its source is from the pit of hell.

God Himself implied that marriage is good. When the apostle Paul, talked about some of the things he could have enjoyed, but willingly sacrificed was marriage. 1st Corinthians 9:6 “Have we not power to lead about a sister, a wife as well as other apostles…”. Apostle Paul meant marriage is good thing but he had sacrificed it.

Marriage is a very good institution yet many couples are hurting daily. Husbands complain and wives feel as if they are in hell. Why is this so?

Many people are caught in this web of confusion because they have not understood the basic principle of marriage. MARRIAGE IS AN INSTITUTION SET UP BY GOD FOR MAN AND WOMAN, IN WHICH THE PRIMARY TASK IS THAT, PARTNERS MUST SEEK THE SATISFACTION OF THEIR PARTNER’S FIRST BEFORE THEIR OWN. God said in Genesis 2:18 “And the Lord God said, it is not good that the man should be alone: I will make him an help meet for him”. God made the woman to be a help meet for the man. Now note also that the man is likewise supposed to be a helper for the woman. The ministry of helps couldn’t have been one way. If each partner seeks the joy of the other, the hurting would be greatly minimized, and the home would be a joyful place.

When it becomes a task of both parties to seek the satisfaction, comfort and joy of their partners FIRST then the true purpose of marriage would be seen. Don’t go into marriage to take, or to get, enter marriage to give .I believe this portion should be added to the marriage vows. That is to ask both partners ‘ARE YOU PREPARED TO SEEK THE SATISFACTION, COMFORT, AND JOY OF YOUR PARTNER FIRST BEFORE YOURS?‘(Philippians 2:3&4)


Marriage is not a parasitic relationship. I have dedicated my role in marriage to bring satisfaction, comfort and joy to my partner first.  There is a constant joy at home as this is done.


Philippians 2:3-4 .Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves. Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others.

1 Corinthians 13:4-5 “Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil”;

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