KEY SCRIPTURE: Ephesians 5:28. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.

To understand life, ourselves and our relationship with others, we have to go to the Holy Scriptures. The bible is a perfect standard for living.

In all our deliberations so far, we have realised that marriage is a relationship between a man and a woman who  have become one flesh.. If the man loves his wife, then he loves himself. . Please take time to meditate on this. The proceeding verse says no man ever hate his own flesh, but nourish and cherishes it. He gives the best of treatment to it. Do same to your wife.

There are quite a number of men who are doing their best for their wives yet they seem not appreciate their efforts. Are the wives being ungrateful? May be yes or no. She may appreciate what the man is providing, yet there is an expectation that the man, may not be meeting. . (PLEASE GET GARY CHAPMAN’S BOOK,’THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES’) and read.

1st Peter 3:7a says “Likewise, ye husband dwell with [them] according to knowledge…” You need knowledge to live happily with your wife. The same also goes for the wife as well.

Some men are so committed to their jobs seeking to make enough money to get everything for the home. They stay at work till late and when they are at home, they are still beside the computer or laptops. Despite all their efforts the wife is not happy and pleased. What is going on here? Remember the bible said in Genesis 3:16b. “……and their (woman) desire shall be to their husband….”  The gadgets in the home and all the monies to pay whatever bills, are very good and excellent, but the desire of the woman according to God is neither any of these but to her husband. Among all the efforts you are making to get the home running, make time to be with your wife. She needs you to be present with her. Get the Televisions off and all other detractors off so you could have some moments together. Love means seeking to meet one another’s concerns.

The wife must also be interested in the very things that the man is occupied with. Men are goal oriented beings and would always want to achieve certain targets. Don’t be a stranger to the world of your husband.

Be very interested in the things that occupy him. Marriage is a two way affair each party must play his/her role to make a very happy home.


I am one with my spouse and must seek to know that which interests my spouse, and show my love for him or her by doing it.


1 Peter 3:7 ” Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.”

1 Peter 3:8-9 “Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous: Not rendering evil for evil, or railing for railing: but contrariwise blessing; knowing that ye are thereunto called, that ye should inherit a blessing.”

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