KEY SCRIPTURE: Hebrews 12:15 “Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be defiled”;
People enter into marriage on the bases of *love but divorce on the bases of bitterness.
Bitterness is feeling of hurt and pain which is a reaction to a mistreatment or wrong behaviour, actions or faults from a second person or situation. A person who has become bitter feels satisfied when
1. The offender is punished or suffers similar mistreatment.
2. He or she is taken away or separated from him.
This is what would make a bitter individual feel satisfied. (Gene 4:1-8), (2nd Samuel 13:28).
In the above stories, Cain felt so bitter against Abel to the point that eliminating him was the only thing that would satisfy him.
When bitterness gets to its peak, it’s like an unbearable pain, getting of that individual out of your life is equated to soothing the pain or overcoming the pain. Well this is not the whole truth.Every child of God always have an option between choosing to be bitter or showing love,which will put strength in you to face every adversity with ease.
Our key scripture says “we must look diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God….”. Bitterness means you have forsaken God’s provision of grace. As I said earlier ,everyone of us, can express true love and care if only we would turn our attention from ourselves unto God and His word. We would show love instead of a self centred, self seeking attitude which only make us feel bad, cheated and may be humiliated as well. All these feelings are really alien to us, as a children of God, with God’s love shared abroad in our heart. Tell yourself ‘God’s word says I must not be bitter so I would not be bitter’. Say to yourself’ I would forgive and show true Jesus love’. To prevent a divorce don’t give in to bitterness.
Bitterness would always make you punish your spouse any how? With the mistreatment or punishment he or she would also retaliate. This aggravates the pain in each others life.The end is to break apart. Please stop that crazy cycle by doing what God says. LET THE WORD RULE YOU EVEN IN YOUR HOME .
Man love your wife and woman respect your husband. This is God’s instruction just do it. Divorce can not result.
I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me. This includes actions that are not pleasant,yet I would overcome the evil with good.
Job 21:25 ” And another dieth in the bitterness of his soul, and never eateth with pleasure”.
Isaiah 38:17 ” Behold, for peace I had great bitterness: but thou hast in love to my soul delivered it from the pit of corruption: for thou hast cast all my sins behind thy back”.