KEY SCRIPTURE: Genesis 2:18 “And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him”.
As we draw the curtain on our discussion on marriage to an end,, we take a recap of some of the things we learnt.
Marriage is God’s idea which He established between a man and a woman purposely to meet the needs in each person, for procreation and assisting one another to fulfill his or her God given assignment.
God assigned roles to both parties. Dear husband or wife your allegiance is first and foremost to God, in the role assigned to you. Ephesians 5:22, 25 “Wives submit yourself unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. Husband love your wives as Christ loved the church and gave Himself for it”. These roles were not made by the pastor or any group. God established it. You fulfill the idea God has for you in marriage as you observe your role as diligently as you can.. You don’t submit to your husband because he is kind and considerate, you do so because God asked you to play that role. The husband does not love his wife because she is a good woman, but because God said so.
In marriage the two become one flesh and so every deed must be for the common good of the two. The man is the head and the woman is the body. No man hates his body, he loves cherishes and nourishes it. Your wife is your own body, treat her like your very skin. The man is the head of the woman and must be allowed to lead as the wife reverences him and obeys him. Since the two are one, nothing should be done to break this unity. (Matthew 19:6).
Fornication is one main thing that can dissolve a marriage (Matthew 19:9). Couples can still forgive their partners and accept them yet they must denounce the act and make vows of commitment so the marriage would be properly reinstated.
Divorce is a terrible thing and God says He hates divorce Malachi 2:16. Divorce adversely affects both man and woman, destroys the morals of the children and can bring the couples under an unbreakable curse.
Divorce is basically a product of bitterness. As the actions, omissions and events in the marriage go to hurt, offend each other. In time partners grow bitter if they do not forgive. When bitterness have fully grown the pain in the heart, mind and even emotions of the partners become unbearable and so divorce become a solution to ease this pain.
Well this pain called bitterness could be avoided by turning from yourself to God and His word, so you receive strength to overcome the evil with good.
Thank you heavenly Father for the insight gained through these studies I would pattern my marriage according to the word of God so I live to glorify Him as well as enjoy my marriage life.
Ephesians 5:22-25 “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;”
Malachi 2:14-16 ” Yet ye say, wherefore? Because the LORD hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously: yet is she thy companion, and the wife of thy covenant. And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth. For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit that ye deal not treacherously”.