KEY SCRPTURE: Ephesians 4:32. “And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you”.

In our previous study we considered the need for every couple to have a committed love for their fellow partner. This is what brings the joy of marriage and takes a lot of stress out of the marriage life. The bible said, one will put a thousand to flight whiles two will put ten thousand to flight. (Deut 32:30). How will this happen? It will take the power of unity to do this. This is what a committed love for each other will do for them. We realized that there are a number of hindrances to many couples experiencing this unity for exploits. One of such hindrances is bitterness resulting from unforgiveness oh how unfortunate, many couples are very bitter against each other because of some unforgiven wrong.

Once again, I wish to iterate this point, if you call yourself a Christian then you have ceased to be in the flesh. Romans 8:9. “But ye are not in the flesh, but in the Spirit, if so be that the Spirit of God dwell in you. Now if any man has not the Spirit of Christ, he is none of his”. We are one with the Spirit of Jesus. WE are one with him in every way. The root cause of unforgiveness is pride. Stop living and relating with your spouse as Mr. K or Madam Y. You are Jesus in the body of Mr. K, and sister, you are Jesus in the body of Madam Y. AS Jesus what offence can’t you forgive. Please don’t think of these things I am talking about as anything strange. Jesus came not to raise followers but to raise a family who were just like Him. Holiness in simple definition is living like Jesus. This is humanly impossible, yet through our Lord Jesus it is very possible. We are not trying to become like Him, we are like Him. 1 Corinthians 6:17, But the person who is united to the Lord becomes one spirit with Him. Say it, I and Christ are one.

Accept from now that you are like Jesus. Accept you can love like Him. You can forgive like Him. Dear Christian couple everything about the Christian is supernatural and you have to accept your supernatural state to be able to live that life. Stop relating to your spouse on the plain of a human.  Many Christians have not had victory over various challenges because they see themselves as flesh and blood dealing with hurts and offences that has come to them as humans. Our flesh no longer is the master; it is our Spirit. Rom 8:10 “If Christ is in you, the body is dead because of sin, but the spirit is alive because of righteousness”. Your flesh which should feel offended and hurt, is dead, meaning it does not lead or rule you. It is the Spirit of Christ, active through you. He is forgiving, so you are forgiving. He is loving, so you are loving. Say this, from today I forgive every hurt and love my spouse totally.


I am one with Jesus. He is living in me. I can forgive, bless and love all men like Jesus loved. I can love my spouse like Him. From this moment, I forgive every offense of my spouse I do not keep bitterness in me. I have a committed love. Glory be to God.


1 John 4:17. “In this love has been made perfect among us, that we may have boldness in the day of judgment, because as he is, even so are we in this world”.

Deuteronomy 32:30. “How should one chase a thousand, and two put ten thousand to flight, except their Rock had sold them, and the LORD had shut them up?”

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