KEY SCRIPTURE: Matthew 19:5 (KJV). “And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?”
In the key scripture the Lord started by saying, for this ‘cause.’ For what cause was the Lord talking about? For the cause of the two becoming one flesh, the man must leave parents and cleave to his wife. Parents are normally the closest and strongest attachment that many have. The Lord considers the institution of marriage as very important. If one has to leave parents, then he must leave every other thing that would stand in between the two. Marriage becomes the bedrock of every society. Marriage needs to be approached with the highest submission to God’s best standards.
After leaving, the man must cleave to his wife. The idea of getting cleaved is like getting glued to something. Many marriages do not have the cleaving aspect. Why is this so? If one has not truly left all other issues and attachments, he or she cannot properly cleave. The Lord is saying by these things, that is, the essence of leaving and cleaving makes your husband or wife the most important person in each of the parties’ life. Most of the challenges and difficulties in most homes come as a result of a failure to properly leave and cleave.
There are some wives who receive instructions from their mother in-law about what to cook for their husband. In these days of communications, the mobile phone has become either the first or second husband, or the first or second wife. There is so much attachment to the mobile phone, such that there is no leaving or cleaving in that respect proud and selfish Ideas, must be forsaken, to lovingly cleave to your spouse. Note: So long as this principle of leaving and cleaving is not in place, that marriage has not truly started yet, or it could be described as a vehicle on a rough road yet to get unto the smooth road. Marriages with unresolved issues or matters that have not been put aside also makes the principle of leaving and cleaving, non-existent. Dear couples, to have a smooth road marriage and not a rocky, potholed marriage, then leave everything that stands as a threat to the marriage and cleave to your partner.
In submission to God and love for my partner, I have left everything that must be left, and have cleaved to my partner.
Ephesians 5:33 (KJV). Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.
Ephesians 5:21 (KJV). “Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.”