Rev. Dr. Samuel Somuah Asante is an ordained minister of the gospel, who is commissioned to project the Lord Jesus Christ. His ministry emphasis is on th divine elevation of the believer in Christ. He believes strongly that all who are in Christ have the privilege to live above sin and failure, walk in righteousness and the resurrected life of Christ. He encourages Christians, especially pastors, to live a life that manifests the glory of God through them. Rev. Somuah is a graduate of the Kwame Nkrumah University of Science & Technology (KNUST), Ghana and holds a Masters degree in Theology from International Theological Seminary (Ghana Campus), and a PhD in Biblical Studies from ZOE Theological Seminar (USA). He is the Chief Servant of Jesus Witness Ministry, based in Taifa-Burkina, Accra. He is married to Rev. (Mrs.) Doris Somuah Asante and are blessed with two sons, Samuel and Arnold. They make their home in Accra, Ghana.


KEY SCRIPTURE: Revelation 12:9 “And the great dragon was cast out, that old serpent, called the Devil, and Satan, which deceiveth the whole world: he was cast out into the earth, and his angels were cast out with him”.

The stability and proper functioning of families is the stability and peace of our world. This reason makes Satan hate the unity of every marriage and would do everything to destroy the home.

Many people do not know Satan is against marriages and that their marriage is also a target of the enemy. Is it just for nothing to find a number of husbands becoming unfaithful to their wives and all sorts of extra marital advances? Who is behind these influence?

Many times the slightest misunderstanding between some couples turns to very grave anger leading to buttering of the wives and even divorce. There are certain individuals who may be so much in love prior to the marriage, only to become great enemies just after they have married. What is all these? There are invisible beings who hate all men. These beings influence these course of events.

I have encountered wives who have uncontrollable anger and would do things just to make the husband decide to break the marriage. During deliverance sessions, it comes to the fore that these ladies are controlled by supernatural beings who pose as spiritual husbands. Some women under such influences can’t just have stable homes. A lot of negative things happen to them and their home.

The simple truth about this is that Satan hate marriages and would do everything to break it up.

What must couples do? Every couple must be committed to the word of God and prayer. The scripture said put on the whole armour of God that ye may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil. (Ephesians 6:11) Satan and his demons speak to the minds of men. Be ready to refuse, and resist thoughts that are unscriptural and sinful. Thoughts that gear you to hate your spouse and seek other supposedly “comfortable” arms must be refused.

Pray often with your wife and declare the peace of God over your home. Make declarations about being faithful to your spouse, having victory over the devil and the fact that your marriage is forever. Don’t relent, Satan can’t destroy your home if you stand your ground.


My marriage is established by God. I am not ignorant of the devil’s devices to attack my home. In Jesus name Satan is forever defeated and would not have any part in me or my spouse.


Ephesians 6:12-13 “For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places. Wherefore take unto you the whole armour of God that ye may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand”.

Matthew 13:25” But while men slept, his enemy came and sowed tares among the wheat, and went his way”.


KEY SCRIPTURE: Ephesians 5:28. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.

To understand life, ourselves and our relationship with others, we have to go to the Holy Scriptures. The bible is a perfect standard for living.

In all our deliberations so far, we have realised that marriage is a relationship between a man and a woman who  have become one flesh.. If the man loves his wife, then he loves himself. . Please take time to meditate on this. The proceeding verse says no man ever hate his own flesh, but nourish and cherishes it. He gives the best of treatment to it. Do same to your wife.

There are quite a number of men who are doing their best for their wives yet they seem not appreciate their efforts. Are the wives being ungrateful? May be yes or no. She may appreciate what the man is providing, yet there is an expectation that the man, may not be meeting. . (PLEASE GET GARY CHAPMAN’S BOOK,’THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES’) and read.

1st Peter 3:7a says “Likewise, ye husband dwell with [them] according to knowledge…” You need knowledge to live happily with your wife. The same also goes for the wife as well.

Some men are so committed to their jobs seeking to make enough money to get everything for the home. They stay at work till late and when they are at home, they are still beside the computer or laptops. Despite all their efforts the wife is not happy and pleased. What is going on here? Remember the bible said in Genesis 3:16b. “……and their (woman) desire shall be to their husband….”  The gadgets in the home and all the monies to pay whatever bills, are very good and excellent, but the desire of the woman according to God is neither any of these but to her husband. Among all the efforts you are making to get the home running, make time to be with your wife. She needs you to be present with her. Get the Televisions off and all other detractors off so you could have some moments together. Love means seeking to meet one another’s concerns.

The wife must also be interested in the very things that the man is occupied with. Men are goal oriented beings and would always want to achieve certain targets. Don’t be a stranger to the world of your husband.

Be very interested in the things that occupy him. Marriage is a two way affair each party must play his/her role to make a very happy home.


I am one with my spouse and must seek to know that which interests my spouse, and show my love for him or her by doing it.


1 Peter 3:7 ” Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.”

1 Peter 3:8-9 “Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous: Not rendering evil for evil, or railing for railing: but contrariwise blessing; knowing that ye are thereunto called, that ye should inherit a blessing.”


KEY SCRIPTURE: Genesis 2:18 “And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him”.

Marriage is a blessing and not a curse. God Himself said “it is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him”. God set up marriage to meet certain needs in the lives of both man and woman. These needs include:

  1. Complementing the man and the woman’s need. (Gen 2:18)
  2. Companionship. (Gen 2:18)
  3. Assisting each partner to fulfill his or her assignment in life (Gen 2:18).
  4. Procreation. (Malachi 2:15)
  5. Sexual needs. (1st Corinth 7:2)

A man I heard trying to describe his concept of marriage said that, marriage is a cage in which if you happen to enter, you cannot free yourself. This view is held by quite a number of people, but is very wrong and its source is from the pit of hell.

God Himself implied that marriage is good. When the apostle Paul, talked about some of the things he could have enjoyed, but willingly sacrificed was marriage. 1st Corinthians 9:6 “Have we not power to lead about a sister, a wife as well as other apostles…”. Apostle Paul meant marriage is good thing but he had sacrificed it.

Marriage is a very good institution yet many couples are hurting daily. Husbands complain and wives feel as if they are in hell. Why is this so?

Many people are caught in this web of confusion because they have not understood the basic principle of marriage. MARRIAGE IS AN INSTITUTION SET UP BY GOD FOR MAN AND WOMAN, IN WHICH THE PRIMARY TASK IS THAT, PARTNERS MUST SEEK THE SATISFACTION OF THEIR PARTNER’S FIRST BEFORE THEIR OWN. God said in Genesis 2:18 “And the Lord God said, it is not good that the man should be alone: I will make him an help meet for him”. God made the woman to be a help meet for the man. Now note also that the man is likewise supposed to be a helper for the woman. The ministry of helps couldn’t have been one way. If each partner seeks the joy of the other, the hurting would be greatly minimized, and the home would be a joyful place.

When it becomes a task of both parties to seek the satisfaction, comfort and joy of their partners FIRST then the true purpose of marriage would be seen. Don’t go into marriage to take, or to get, enter marriage to give .I believe this portion should be added to the marriage vows. That is to ask both partners ‘ARE YOU PREPARED TO SEEK THE SATISFACTION, COMFORT, AND JOY OF YOUR PARTNER FIRST BEFORE YOURS?‘(Philippians 2:3&4)


Marriage is not a parasitic relationship. I have dedicated my role in marriage to bring satisfaction, comfort and joy to my partner first.  There is a constant joy at home as this is done.


Philippians 2:3-4 .Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves. Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others.

1 Corinthians 13:4-5 “Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil”;


KEY SCRIPTURE: Ephesians 5:26-27 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.

Our key scripture says the Lord sanctifies and cleanses the church with the word of God which washes the church. He does this to present the church to Himself, a glorious church not having spot, or wrinkle.

To all couples, what sort of words do you give each other? Please understand that women are amazing people. They multiply whatever you give them. Give a woman a seed (sperm) and she would give you a baby. Give her some money and you will have food for the whole family. Give her small trouble and she would multiply it and give you big trouble. If you give harsh words to your wife be sure that your happiness in the home would be seriously eroded.

Husbands share the word of God with your wives. The Bible says she is the weaker vessel. The greatest need of every woman is security, you complicate her emotions when you use harsh words on her. It is love that soothe her sense of insecurity. When the wife also say words that hurt they generate wrong responses from the man. Give what you expect your spouse to give back to you. The following are the kind of words that you have to give to your partner.

  1. Words of appreciation: that is showing appreciation for your partner doing certain duties.
  2. Words of encouragement. Words that strengthens your partner to keep doing something that he/she is getting discouraged about.
  3. Kind words: when you tell your spouse words like you are special to me. I love you. After my salvation, you in my life is the second best thing that happened to me. These are kind words. I realised such words are lost in most marriages. Please do mean them when you say them.
  4. Humble words: when you add please to whatever request you seek to make from your spouse.

All such words go a long way to stir in your spouse a sense of respect and love that makes him / her come out with his/her best.

The bible says the Lord sanctifies and cleanses the church with the washing of water which is the word and prepares the church for Himself. All the right words prepare your spouse for yourself.

If you have not been relating this way, repent and change your ways for a blissful family life.


Words are very powerful either to build up or to destroy. I will always say words of scripture to bless and lift my spouse to be what she or he should be.


Colossians 4:6 “Let your speech be always with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man”.

James 1:19-20  ” Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath:  For the wrath of man worketh not the righteousness of God”.


KEY SCRIPTURE: Ephesians 5:23 ” For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body”.

Marriage is God’s idea and it fulfills His ultimate purpose for humanity if His prescriptions for marriage is adhered to. The Bible is God’s manual for human living, believes and practices. It presents the perfect teachings and pictures of how marriage should be.

Our key scripture says “For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church and the saviour of the body”.

 This scripture must be understood in its proper perspective. The Bible teaches clearly that the husband is the head of the wife. It compares that to Christ being the head of the church, but quickly added that He is also the saviour of the body. Christ’s work of saving the church was an act of selflessness prompted by love. He sought for the ultimate good of the church. He was not Lord to bully the body but acted to give the highest comfort to the body.

Husband’s role as the head of the wife is not a position of superiority but for order in the home. The wife must wholeheartedly acknowledge the man as the head and never attempt to assume leadership. Any act of insubordination or an attempt to dominate the husband is a rebellion against the standard God has set in the home

The man is the head, the woman can be said to be the neck. Each one is very important and indispensable.

 The two are never two separate individuals but one body with one purpose. That is why there are no two heads, but one, supported by the neck. Without the neck, the head cannot function. There is therefore the need for perfect cooperation. This perfect cooperation is made possible by love. The husband, who is the head must always act and take   decisions that preserves, comforts and satisfies the body. If the actions of the husband affects the body wrongly, the husband would also suffer because it is one body.

The main problem in most homes is that husbands and wives see themselves as separate individuals and do things independently.

 The mystery of marriage is that two people become one. This excludes any other extra marital affairs with any one whatsoever. (Ephesians 5:32)

 Satan’s attacks on marriages is because of this oneness. Never allow the devil to destroy this oneness.


I accept my role in the home in the light of God’s word. Love would always be my motivation in all I do.


Malachi 2:15  ” And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth”.

Ephesians 5:31 ” For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh”.



KEY SCRIPTURE: Ephesians 5:25 “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it”;

For couples to understand how God wants their marriages to go, they must look at the relationship between our Lord Jesus and the church.

In our previous study we considered the role of the wife to the husband as related to Christ and the church. Today we will consider the role of the husband to the wife in the same way that is between Christ and the church. The scripture says, husbands love your wives even as Christ also loved the church and gave himself for it.

Husbands don’t start saying your standard is too high. The Lord would never ask you to do what you cannot do. The word always carries with it the ability to do what it says. Accept you can. Husbands can love their wives just as Christ loved the church. Christ was selfless, considerate, supportive, and gave His best to the church. Husbands must do the same. It is rather strange when you hear some men say marriage is just a friendship and you can always break one friendship and make a new one. Dear child of God, the word of God is our standard, our yardstick, and our rule. When you stay with it, you would be successful and victorious, but if you ignore it, Satan will take over your life and tear your home and life apart.

Jesus could not have another woman outside the church. Could you imagine the Lord mistreating the church in any way? It is strange for a child of God to beat up his wife. How can you love your wife and keep telling lies to your wife.

The standard of Christian marriage is Christ and the church. Whatever Christ has is for the church, we are joint heirs with Christ (Romans 8:17). Husband you are also a joint owner of whatever you have with your wife. Husband, please get this clear, you really begin to enjoy life and for that matter marriage life when you truly love your wife.

Anything that makes you mistreat your wife is your real enemy. (Malachi 2:15)

If you have not lived with your wife and your marriage this way, then repent, take a good look at the relationship between Jesus and the church and pattern your life and marriage that way. LET THE WORD RULE YOU.


Jesus and the church is the perfect example of God’s idea of marriage, I would pattern my life and marriage that way, so I would enjoy true peace and victory in life.


John 15:13 Greater love hath no man than this that a man lay down his life for his friends.

1 Peter 3:7 ” Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered”.



KEY SCRIPTURE: Ephesians 5:24 “Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything”.

The family is the smallest unit of our world societies. The state of our world is a direct result of how the simplest unit that is the family is. God’s word instructs us on what to do so that the home or the family would be that healthy place which would be reflected in our communities, towns, states, nations and the wider world as a whole.

Our key scripture instructs wives to be subjected to their own husband in EVERYTHING as the church is subjected to Christ. (Note: since the bible relates marriage to Christ and the church, it suggests that, the actions of the man would not threaten the existence of the wife as a human being)The scripture gave no condition to this. It did not say, submit to them if they are good husbands. Neither did it say submit if they are able to meet all their requirements as husbands. If you are a child of God who is ready to allow God’s word to rule your actions, then do as the scripture says. The word said subject yourself to them in everything. The word subject means “to arrange under or to subordinate or to obey. This is an attitude of reverence.

Every wife must heed to this instruction and obey their husbands in everything. Do this as a command from the Lord. Do it as God’s assignment for you in the home. Obey him in all things and at all times.

In Luke 6:31, our Lord Jesus taught His disciples that “And as you would- that men should do to you, do ye also to them likewise”. This verse does not mean wait for them to do to you what you desire. No!, the principle is sowing and reaping. You always reap what you sow. Keep sowing acts of obedience and submission to your husband. Do not give up even if it seems he is not treating you rightly. You would definitely reap a harvest of a kind loving husband if you do not give up.

This is a principle of life and its works every time, and everywhere. Let the word rule your life


Father every command or instruction of scripture carries with it the ability to be obedient. I receive the ability to relate rightly to my partner in Jesus name.


1 Peter 3:1-2 ” Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear”.

1 Peter 3:5-6 ” For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: Even as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement”.



KEY SCRIPTURE: Luke 5:5  ” And Simon answering said unto him, Master, we have toiled all the night, and have taken nothing: nevertheless at thy word I will let down the net”.

Proverbs 3:5,6 advices us to “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding”, from the story of Luke 5 Peter and his team who were professional fishermen had toiled throughout the night yet, were without any catch. They were experienced fishermen yet their experiences and skills could not help them.

Man is normally prone to living and doing things according to his understanding. Proverbs 3:6 says we must acknowledge the Lord in all our ways. We must seek His way in everything.

In our key scripture, the Lord asked Peter to launch out into the deep and let down the net for a draught. Peter did not ask the Lord, how experienced are you? He did not say I know so much about this sea and nothing has worked out. Peter admitted that they had toiled the whole night and had caught nothing, and that at the word of the master he will let them the net. The result was phenomenal. They caught so much fishes that their net even got broken. Creation responds to God’s word.

 Acting on the word is allowing God to act through you. . The scripture says all things are possible to them that believe. (Mark 9:23)Let the word rule you.

Decide to act on what the word of God tells you. The instructions of the word are not normally reasonable if one wants to analyse them.

The moment you believe the word enough to act on it, you have welcome the Almighty God to work through you. Remember there are two groups of persons to whom all things are possible with.

  1. With God nothing shall be impossible Luke 1:37
  2. To the man who believes, all things are possible.(Mark 9:23)

What are we seeing here? The man who believes the word operates by the authority and power of God. God’s word is His authority and power. Psalm 138:2


The word would always prevail over every condition if allowed to work. I always put God’s word into action in every situation of my life. The mighty hand of God is seen in my life always..


Psalms 138:2. I will worship toward thy holy temple, and praise thy name for thy lovingkindness and for thy truth: for thou hast magnified thy word above all thy name.

Acts 19:20 “So mightily grew the word of God and prevailed”.


KEY SCRIPTURE: James 4:6 “But he giveth more grace. Wherefore he saith, God resisteth the proud, but giveth grace unto the humble”.

Romans 8:31 reads “if God be for us who can be against is”. Well, no one can overcome us, but what happens when God is against you?

Our key scripture says God opposes the proud. This is the worst of experience that a man could face. Who is a proud man? Pride is a misplaced identify. It is when you don’t accept yourself for who God says you are. Pride is simply not to be submissive to the word of God.

Pride is not about mannerism. A man may be very out spoken and, may not look calm in his disposition, yet may be very humble. The basic determinant whether one is proud or humble is his or her attitude or response to the word of God. How do you treat what God says? Do you seek the praise of men and behind the scene blatantly disobey the word of God?

Please read the whole of 1st Samuel 15. The Lord instructed Samuel to tell Saul to go destroy everyone and everything in the Land of Amalek. King Saul went, destroyed the people, left the King called Agag and also the best of the sheep and of the oxen and the fatlings, and the lamb and everything that looked good untouched.

When the prophet Samuel confronted King Saul, He said in verse 15: They have brought them from Amalekites: for the people spared the best of the sheep and the oxen, to sacrifice unto the Lord thy God and the rest we have utterly destroyed “. Please read his statement well. Concerning the sheep and the oxen that were spared, it was “the people” but those that were destroyed it was “we”. King Saul never accepted his offence or error. He always pushed the blame to others. He was a rebel at heart. In verse 23 Samuel described how God sees the proud: “For rebellion is as the sin of witch craft and stubbornness is as iniquity and idolatry. Because thou has rejected the word of the Lord, he has also rejected thee from being king”.



It is a terrible thing to reject the word of God. I have made up my mind to esteem God’s word above all other things. God is on my side because I always stand for Him.


1 Samuel 2:30  “Wherefore the LORD God of Israel saith, I said indeed that thy house, and the house of thy father, should walk before me forever: but now the LORD saith, Be it far from me; for them that honour me I will honour, and they that despise me shall be lightly esteemed”.

2 Chronicles 16:9 ”  For the eyes of the LORD run to and fro throughout the whole earth, to shew himself strong in the behalf of them whose heart is perfect toward him. Herein thou hast done foolishly: therefore from henceforth thou shalt have wars”.


KEY SCRIPTURE: James 4:6 “But he giveth more grace. Wherefore he saith, God resisteth the proud, but giveth grace unto the humble”.

God gives more grace to the humble. Any man who is ruled by the word is humble. Our key scripture says God gives more grace to the man who is ruled by the word.

Grace is the supply of divine ability that works in our hearts to succeed or do that which our natural abilities cannot do. It is a favour done us, because we do not deserve it.

The man Joseph decided to be ruled by the word, no matter the challenge or opposition that rose against him. When Potiphar’s wife tempted him, this was what he said. “But he refused and said unto his master’s wife, behold, my master is not concerned about what is with me in the house, and he has committed all that he has to my hand, there is none greater in this house than I, neither has he kept anything back from me but thee, because thou art his wife: how then can I do this great wickedness and sin against God?” (Genesis 39:8, 9).

This event took place outside the awareness of every other person in the house, yet Joseph knew God was present and that he had to do what the word of God demanded. He refused, although the woman succeeded in causing him to be thrown into prison…

God gave him more grace, and even though he was from a foreign land, he became the vice president of a foreign land, a world super power at that time.

To be ruled by the word would bring you enough grace to positions in life that, no human connections can do.

.Acts 10:34-35 “Then Peter opened his mouth, and said, of a truth I perceive that God is no respecter of persons: But in every nation he that feareth him, and worketh righteousness, is accepted with him”.

Fear the Lord deeply in your heart and honour Him with all you do and you would never lack divine provision to be distinguished in life*.


God is the giver of grace and the promoter of all persons depending on what they do with His word. I would never lack the supply of divine ability because I have set my face to be constantly ruled by His word.


Psalms 1:1-3 “Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth in the way of sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the scornful.

But his delight is in the law of the LORD; and in his law doth he meditate day and night.

And he shall be like a tree planted by the rivers of water, that bringeth forth his fruit in his season; his leaf also shall not wither; and whatsoever he doeth shall prosper”.

Isaiah 1:19 “If ye be willing and obedient, ye shall eat the good of the land”: